The DPDR phases aren’t a diagnosis. They’re a map. They don’t label you as “broken” — they simply show where you are, and how the path forward might look.
1. “I don’t understand what’s happening. Everything feels unreal.”This is the initial shock. Strange sensations. It feels like you’re losing control — but it’s just the brain’s reaction to overload.
2. “I feel empty. Everything is flat and quiet. Like I can’t feel anything.”The brain turns off emotions and perception. It’s not you — it’s a temporary protective mode.
3. “I’m kind of living, but it’s all autopilot. Nothing feels real.”You’re not fully shut down, but not fully alive either. Recovery has started — but it’s still fragile.
4. “Sometimes it gets better, but I’m afraid it’ll come back.”You’re already on your way out. The brain is just checking — is it safe to feel again?
5. “I’m almost fine, but I still think about it a lot.”This is the living phase. The key now is not to get stuck in analysis. You’re here — and that means things are moving forward.
6. “It felt like it was over… but then it hit again.”This isn’t a setback — it’s final integration. Don’t panic. This is part of the process.
What you’re feeling isn’t disappearance.
It’s a shift.
You’re not lost —
you’re in motion. You’re on your way.